KNOW YOUR WORTH!
„People always act like they’re doing more for you than you’re doing for them.
Ask yourself this question, “Why would they do that?”
Obviously, you bring something to the table for them to even do business with you.
GET USED TO GETTING USED!
To most people, the saying “to use someone” carries a negative connotation, but I don’t see it that way. To “mis”, “over” or “ab” use someone is negative. To use is necessary and if you can’t be used… then you’re useless.
BE LEERY OF THE FREE GIFT BAG!
There are some people who try to put themselves into a position just so you’ll owe them something. Their entire M.O. is: “I did this for you, now you have to do something for me.”
Don’t let people think you owe them anything. That puts you in a position of weakness. If they choose to give, it’s their choice.
For example, I asked someone to do a part of my album. The artist agreed and said, “I’m not even going to charge you”, as if he was doing me a favor, “But, when I’m working on my album, I want you to do a verse for me.”
I responded with, “NO! I want to pay you for what I asked you to do and we’ll talk about that verse when the time comes. Thank You And You’re Welcome!”
Would you rather have 100% from an average person
10% from someone who is outstanding?
the Best sees the Best
I pride myself in being able to recognize the best in others. I see it as a testament of my taste level. I can’t stress enough the importance of surrounding yourself with energy that supports your goals. Old folks used to say, “You can’t soar with eagles if you’re walking around with chickens.” Unfortunately, I have encountered countless chickens and not just on tour either.
There have been times when I’ve had to separate myself from certain family members, childhood friends, and people in general who brought negative energy into my life. It is not always easy, but very necessary.
If you know you’re the best, it only makes sense for you to surround yourself with the best. NO EXCEPTIONS!
Life is 5% what happens
and 95% how you react!
THINK it SAY it DO it
I get a lot of back lash for saying what I’m going to do. I love saying what I think because it keeps me accountable. Once I say it, I feel like I have to do it and I love proving to everyone that I can! It’s like using public opinion as a motivational tool instead of its common role of degradation. If I kept it to myself, at any point, I could easily give up on my goal because no one would have known what I was trying to do.
People who say what they think and then do what they say n0rmally get what they want out of life.
When you say things out loud, you definitely put more pressure on yourself. Now ask yourself, can you handle the pressure? If you can’t, instead of “think it, say it, do it” you can just “think it and do it.” That’s cool also because it creates mystery. Only you can answer if you will “do it’’ without the extra pressure of trying to shut-up the naysayer.
Now if you can’t even think it, then you shouldn’t be reading this book!
If EVERYBODY thinks it’s right…
You’re doing something wrong!
WOULD YOU BELIEVE IN WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN
if you were the only one who believed in it?
As strong my opinions are, I often ask people questions just to make sure that I’m right.
If no one agreed with me on things, “I should have won” or “blacks are more homophobic,” would I stick to my beliefs or conform?
When someone is strong enough to believe in something only they believe in, people are going to call them crazy… sometimes crazy is a label that average put on the exceptional.
YOU should be HAPPY right?
I refuse to accept other people’s ideas of happiness for me. As if there’s a “one size fits all” standard for happiness.
Regardless of your position in life, no one but you is qualified to determine your happiness.
I think it’s great to never be completely happy or satisfied in life. If I never became completely satisfied with the work I put out as an artist… that is the moment I would suck!
It is the sand which irritates the oyster that makes a pearl.
2 KEYS 2 HAPPINESS
One… Being able to tolerate things that make you unhappy.
Two… Being able to change things to make you happy.
Now, if you have a low tolerance and don’t have the ability to create change, there’s a good chance that you will be unhappy!
embrace your flaws!
My entire family used to tell me, “You don’t need to get your teeth fixed, they’re fine”, but the kids in the lunchroom would say, “Your teeth are big and white just like a horse!”
So I got braces and had to have eight teeth removed. Imagine how crowded my teeth must have been. After that I was teased for having braces. Once my teeth were fixed, everybody (including some of the same people who said I didn’t need them) said, “Your teeth look so much better!”
So now, when I see people with messed-up teeth, I want to be that one person who tells them the truth like the kids told me, “Your teeth are big and white like a horse!”
I don’t believe in accepting a changeable condition.
Although I haven’t totally embraced this yet, people often say one of my flaws is arrogance. If arrogance means being conceited, brash, cocky, or pushy, I can be all of that sometimes. Arrogance has also been defined as an overwhelming feeling of self-importance. I do feel important, but everybody should feel this way about themselves.
Arrogance is sometimes expressed by treating others with contempt or disregard. I try my best not to do this. You can be cocky without being arrogant. When you cross the line from being playful with your own expression of self-confidence and mistreat others, then you (meaning me or my imaginary friend) have become arrogant.
I feel my confidence + someone’s low self-esteem = my arrogance.
Recognize and embrace your flaws so you can learn from them. Sometimes it takes a little polishing to truly shine.
Warning! Arrogant people are most often too arrogant to realize their arrogance.
YOU CAN LEARN MORE FROM A CRITIQUE
THAN FROM A COMPLIMENT!
Believe in your FLYNESS…
…conquer your shyness
THE MISSING BANISTER THEORY
When walking down the street, you can walk in one line perfectly without ever falling over. Now take that same city block, make it a foot wider and then put it a hundred stories high. You’re going to be so focused on the fact that you don’t have a banister, that you’re more likely to fall because of it.
When you’re so focused on what you don’t have… you won’t have!
Isn’t it interesting how one thing changes everything?
Never complain without offering a solution!
I’m often seen as complaining in situations when I lose. I see it more as an explanation of why I should have won.
You rarely see positive results from people who do nothing but complain. The majority of the time, complainers seek only to be heard with no solution in mind. Once heard, they’re off to find something else to complain about.
When you’re extremely focused on what you want, there are times when it’s necessary to explain the things you don’t want, and then tell people what you do want.
Sometimes I see a bad performance and people still clap… I wonder if they’re clapping because they liked what they saw or because they’re happy it’s over?
EXPECTED BLESSINGS RARELY COME
There will be times when you shouldn’t expect to receive your blessing from the same person you blessed. Although this may seem to be a conflict of Thank You And You’re Welcome, it isn’t.
A few years back, I did some beats for an artist who shall remain nameless… literally. I had the expectation of working on his album once he got a major record deal. For whatever reason, after he got signed, he chose not to buy any beats from me. In the midst of being completely heartbroken, and I know that sounds soft, but you just don’t understand! This was my dream, my entire life, AND I had already started putting leather coats on lay-away.
It was a low point in my career and raised a lot of trust issues for me. I felt “miss” and “over” used. But like I said earlier, life is 5% what happens and 95% how you react to it.
We all know there have been times when we have allowed our emotions to guide our decisions. It also didn’t help that a lot of people were giving me bad advice on how to handle the situation. Instead of allowing my anger to push me to do something negative, I focused on the positive. I made more beats, worked harder, and worked through the pain.
In retrospect, it was fortunate for me that he didn’t buy any of my beats because some of those very same beats created for him were used by Jay-Z… and my career was launched.
GOOD ENERGY BRINGS GOOD ENERGY
I WOULD RATHER LOSE BECAUSE SOMEONE ELSE WAS RIGHT
THAN WIN WHEN I’M WRONG.
When a person says, “What, you don’t trust me?”
Do you find yourself thinking, I did before you asked me that?
never justify your behavior with the wrongs of others
You should never make a point that starts off with “But you”. That’s sure sign of a dysfunctional, tit for tat exchange.
When does it make sense that because someone else made a bad decision, now you should?
You must learn to fight the impulse of believing: It’s not fair that you can do it and I can’t.
“It is a man’s own mind, not his enemy or foe, that lures him to evil ways.” – Buddha
I Hate the word Hate!
I WOULD RATHER BE HATED FOR WHO I AM
THAN LOVED FOR WHO I’M NOT
love your haters
they’re your biggest fans!
I question anyone who questions me…
but I question myself all the time!”